If you are trying to comfort someone who is in pain due to the loss of a loved one then you need to read this article.
Often times we feel like sharing encouraging words to a grieving person is useless. In most cases when youtry and use humor such as funny encouraging words to lighten up the mood that someone may choose not to consider a word of what you are sharing.
In spite of the reaction, every one who is in pain needs to to be exposed motivating words. I can liken sharing such words to planting a seed. On the onset it may seem like there is nothing happening to the seed but when you patiently water it something will eventually turn up.
Similarly when sharing words of encouragement, never stop simply because you are not getting the reaction you expect. Don’t stop sharing words of encouragement for Christians if you are dealing with a religious person and don’t even think about giving up.
It is harder for a fresh wound to show signs of healing on the first day. Exercise some patience and understanding. Do not try and set a time table for the person to get over what ever it is he or she is grieving for – depending on the extent of the pain or disappointment.
I had a friend who lost a loved one once and it took more than two years to start talking about her without crying. It turned out everything we kept saying to him over the years – in terms of encouragement, helped him to heal eventually. Truth is, I had started to give up on him and when he told me how I had helped I was really pleased.
So if ever you feel confused and exhausted of writing and reviewing an alternative sample letter of encouragement or poem everyday remember that they are helping him or her to survive through each passing day. Be of good courage and do not stop speaking positively into your friend’s life until you see a positive change.
