Take a few minutes to read this article if you are trying to help someone who is in pain due to the loss of a loved one, break-up, divorce or what ever type of pain.
Often times it may feel like there is no need to share encouraging words to someone who is in pain. In most instances when youoffer some free words of encouragement that someone may choose not to take into consideration a word of what you are trying to communicate.
Regardless of how the person seems to be dealing with the situation, positive speaking is a necessary healing ingredient. Sharing such words is more like planting a seed. At first it may seem like there is nothing happening to the seed but when you tolerantly water it something will eventually turn up.
Similarly when sharing words of encouragement, never stop simply because you are not getting the reaction you expect. Don’t stop sharing inspirational stories through words of encouragement cards or poems and don’t dare give up.
It may be that the person who is hurting is still fresh from the ordeal and needs time to digest everything. Exercise some patience and understanding. For some people, the healing process can take weeks, months and even years – depending on the occurrence or the nature of the grieving person.
I had a friend who lost a loved one once and it took more than two years to start talking about her without crying. One day he told me how the positive things we kept saying to him helped hime to move on eventually. Truth is, I had started to give up on him and when he told me how I had helped I was really pleased.
So if ever you feel frustrated and tired of writing a letter of encouragement or poem do not forget that it is not in for nothing. Pledge this day to keep at it until you know for a fact that your friend in need is over what ever pain and heart ache – this will make you feel valuable and it will bring a positive feeling to you too.
