Being shy can be a debilitating problem. It can keep you from going on dates, making friends, or even progressing in your career. If you are extremely shy, you need to follow a few simple tips to help overcome shyness.
Begin overcoming shyness by thinking small. You can’t learn how to stop being shy all at once. If you try, you will end up frustrated and under a great deal of pressure. The best way to approach your issues with shyness is to begin by taking one step at a time. Make an extensive list of every situation in which you find yourself feeling shy.
This may mean that you list talking to individuals of the opposite sex. For some people, it may be trouble talking and functioning in any social situation. Everyone is unique and the amount of shyness you feel in any given situation may be unique. It is generally easier for anyone to have a short chat than to have a lengthy conversation. It is also usually easier to speak with someone you know than to talk with a group of strangers.
Take time to list, either on paper or on a word processor, every situation that makes you feel shy. List every situation you can think of. Once they are listed, sort the situations in order of difficulty. You may find it easy talking to a family member. If a situation doesn’t cause you any shyness issues at all don’t add it to your list.
Some people find it difficult to make a small conversation with a store clerk. Others find it difficult to talk to someone of the opposite sex. It is up to you to sort out what triggers your shyness, only then can you begin to address the issues one at a time. You should look at the first situation on your list, and determine to find a way to put yourself into that shyness causing situation every day.
If it makes you feel shy to talk to everyone, then you may need to begin by going into a small store every day and speaking to the clerk. Also, try to make yourself speak to the people around you in line. Put yourself in the uncomfortable situation of making conversation whether you want to or not. This is the best way to begin to make strides in overcoming shyness.
