Comments on: The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem http://hightselfesteem.com/2009/12/01/the-six-pillars-of-self-esteem/ Positive self-esteem is the immune system of the spirit. Mon, 06 Feb 2012 15:20:55 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: R. Johnson http://hightselfesteem.com/2009/12/01/the-six-pillars-of-self-esteem/comment-page-1/#comment-1265 R. Johnson Tue, 01 Dec 2009 07:39:48 +0000 http://hightselfesteem.com/2009/12/01/the-six-pillars-of-self-esteem/#comment-1265 This is one of the best self help books ever, and it's definitely one of the very most important ones to read, because it deals with self esteem. I've read several psychology and self help books and I've really learned a lot about myself, people, and the world. I've learned answers to questions that have puzzled me for all my life. I've received the guidance that I always needed for my life but never got anywhere. I think there are a lot of very helpful, enlightening books, but this one I think addresses everyone's core issue - your self esteem, which deeply and broadly affects the quality of your life. You can't have a good life or good mental health unless you develop good self esteem! I think this book has pretty much cured my chronic depression that I've had for years. Antidepressant drugs only help temporarily and superficially. They're not the solution. "Six Pillars of Self-Esteem," on the other hand, gives you a lot of valid, useful life advice that is completely valid and rational. This guidance will really improve your life if you follow it. You don't need to use any religion or cult or belief in god as a crutch. This book is strictly rational and factual and has nothing to do with religion or any other kind of metaphysical thinking. I agree with the author that public school teachers have mishandled the self-esteem issue. They don't really understand it and have botched it up like they've botched up other things, such as teaching kids to read. Well I hope everyone reads this book and finds out what self esteem really is and how to build it in yourself and others. This book also has some excellent advice on parenting. I think if you follow everything it says about parenting, your kids will be really well off and will have a strong foundation to be successful and happy in life. <br /> <br />Everyone should read this book. It is a must. There are many toxic people in society who attack and try to destroy our self esteem every day. Oftentimes we have to live with such people. They ruin our minds and our lives. They cause us to be depressed and feel suicidal. This book is perhaps the most major antidote to all of that. If you don't have good, strong self esteem, then you can't have a good life, good mental health, or even good physical health. Everything revolves around your self esteem. The lower your self esteem, the worse your life in general will be. Conversely, the higher your self esteem, the better your life will be. If deep down in your subconscious you believe you are worthless, then that becomes a self fulfilling prophecy and you will have a horrible, miserable life. You will not believe that you deserve any of the good things in life and therefore you don't allow yourself to have them. The reverse is true too. If you believe that you are of high value, then that too becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. You will live in such a way that you will take good care of yourself and get many good things out of life. Poor self esteem is one of the major factors of depression. That's why this book helped greatly to get me out of depression permanently. It showed me how to raise my self esteem in a practical, rational, valid way. <br /> <br />Several years ago I had chronic, severe depression which I had had for much of my life. Then I read this book and other self help books and also started eating healthy, nutritious foods. Ever since then, my depression has permanently been cured forever. I will never get depressed again. I used to be very vulnerable to depression, but now I am invulnerable to it. If something bad happens to me now, I just get to work immediately on overcoming it or fixing it. There is no chance of anything making me depressed anymore. <br /> <br />I recommend reading self help books instead of talking to therapists. I talked to several therapists and found them extremely unhelpful. Books give you lots of help and information. Books are the opposite of therapists. I think therapists are not really interested in curing people of depression. They want depressed people to get "treatments" forever so that they'll keep paying forever, thus providing a living to therapists, doctors, and the drug companies. <br /> <br />I'm against cognitive therapy. Cognitive therapy stresses correct thinking, but it doesn't tell you what you should think about various issues. This is ridiculous. The idea that everyone can figure out everything themselves is absolute nonsense! You need to read lots of books that have the answers! The problem with people is not so much that they think incorrectly but that they lack correct information. <br /> Rating: 5 / 5 This is one of the best self help books ever, and it’s definitely one of the very most important ones to read, because it deals with self esteem. I’ve read several psychology and self help books and I’ve really learned a lot about myself, people, and the world. I’ve learned answers to questions that have puzzled me for all my life. I’ve received the guidance that I always needed for my life but never got anywhere. I think there are a lot of very helpful, enlightening books, but this one I think addresses everyone’s core issue – your self esteem, which deeply and broadly affects the quality of your life. You can’t have a good life or good mental health unless you develop good self esteem! I think this book has pretty much cured my chronic depression that I’ve had for years. Antidepressant drugs only help temporarily and superficially. They’re not the solution. “Six Pillars of Self-Esteem,” on the other hand, gives you a lot of valid, useful life advice that is completely valid and rational. This guidance will really improve your life if you follow it. You don’t need to use any religion or cult or belief in god as a crutch. This book is strictly rational and factual and has nothing to do with religion or any other kind of metaphysical thinking. I agree with the author that public school teachers have mishandled the self-esteem issue. They don’t really understand it and have botched it up like they’ve botched up other things, such as teaching kids to read. Well I hope everyone reads this book and finds out what self esteem really is and how to build it in yourself and others. This book also has some excellent advice on parenting. I think if you follow everything it says about parenting, your kids will be really well off and will have a strong foundation to be successful and happy in life.

Everyone should read this book. It is a must. There are many toxic people in society who attack and try to destroy our self esteem every day. Oftentimes we have to live with such people. They ruin our minds and our lives. They cause us to be depressed and feel suicidal. This book is perhaps the most major antidote to all of that. If you don’t have good, strong self esteem, then you can’t have a good life, good mental health, or even good physical health. Everything revolves around your self esteem. The lower your self esteem, the worse your life in general will be. Conversely, the higher your self esteem, the better your life will be. If deep down in your subconscious you believe you are worthless, then that becomes a self fulfilling prophecy and you will have a horrible, miserable life. You will not believe that you deserve any of the good things in life and therefore you don’t allow yourself to have them. The reverse is true too. If you believe that you are of high value, then that too becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. You will live in such a way that you will take good care of yourself and get many good things out of life. Poor self esteem is one of the major factors of depression. That’s why this book helped greatly to get me out of depression permanently. It showed me how to raise my self esteem in a practical, rational, valid way.

Several years ago I had chronic, severe depression which I had had for much of my life. Then I read this book and other self help books and also started eating healthy, nutritious foods. Ever since then, my depression has permanently been cured forever. I will never get depressed again. I used to be very vulnerable to depression, but now I am invulnerable to it. If something bad happens to me now, I just get to work immediately on overcoming it or fixing it. There is no chance of anything making me depressed anymore.

I recommend reading self help books instead of talking to therapists. I talked to several therapists and found them extremely unhelpful. Books give you lots of help and information. Books are the opposite of therapists. I think therapists are not really interested in curing people of depression. They want depressed people to get “treatments” forever so that they’ll keep paying forever, thus providing a living to therapists, doctors, and the drug companies.

I’m against cognitive therapy. Cognitive therapy stresses correct thinking, but it doesn’t tell you what you should think about various issues. This is ridiculous. The idea that everyone can figure out everything themselves is absolute nonsense! You need to read lots of books that have the answers! The problem with people is not so much that they think incorrectly but that they lack correct information.

Rating: 5 / 5

]]> By: Anonymous http://hightselfesteem.com/2009/12/01/the-six-pillars-of-self-esteem/comment-page-1/#comment-1264 Anonymous Tue, 01 Dec 2009 06:07:33 +0000 http://hightselfesteem.com/2009/12/01/the-six-pillars-of-self-esteem/#comment-1264 I started reading this book and then actually heard Brandon (the author) speak at a Conference. Afterwards I approached him to ask a question. He was rude and brash and refused to answer my question. Instead he dismissed me by saying, "Just read my book, I beg you, just read my book." I truly wondered afterward about how authentic he is (he speaks alot about authenticity in this book). I wondered about his level of self-esteem. Friends who were standing nearby were equally appalled by his words and attitude. I came home and tried again to wade through his book, though I must admit I was far less enthusiastic because of his arrogance (which shows up in this book as well).<p>My question involved his concept that people must "earn" their self-esteem. In thinking more about it, I realize I truly disagree with this theory. We are not responsible for having developed low self-esteem which forms in childhood and is the result of what we've been taught to believe about ourselves, our worth, our competency. Yes, we can do something about it, we can change our view of ourself and learn to like ourselves. But self-esteem is not something we earn--it's something we learned and can now relearn, if necessary. Rating: 2 / 5 I started reading this book and then actually heard Brandon (the author) speak at a Conference. Afterwards I approached him to ask a question. He was rude and brash and refused to answer my question. Instead he dismissed me by saying, “Just read my book, I beg you, just read my book.” I truly wondered afterward about how authentic he is (he speaks alot about authenticity in this book). I wondered about his level of self-esteem. Friends who were standing nearby were equally appalled by his words and attitude. I came home and tried again to wade through his book, though I must admit I was far less enthusiastic because of his arrogance (which shows up in this book as well).

My question involved his concept that people must “earn” their self-esteem. In thinking more about it, I realize I truly disagree with this theory. We are not responsible for having developed low self-esteem which forms in childhood and is the result of what we’ve been taught to believe about ourselves, our worth, our competency. Yes, we can do something about it, we can change our view of ourself and learn to like ourselves. But self-esteem is not something we earn–it’s something we learned and can now relearn, if necessary.
Rating: 2 / 5

]]> By: D. Gerzon http://hightselfesteem.com/2009/12/01/the-six-pillars-of-self-esteem/comment-page-1/#comment-1263 D. Gerzon Tue, 01 Dec 2009 05:20:16 +0000 http://hightselfesteem.com/2009/12/01/the-six-pillars-of-self-esteem/#comment-1263 I found this book as well as other books of Nathaniel and his former "teacher" to be too wordy and unconclusive. While certain things are interesting and worth open discussion they can be described much easier and in more straight forward terms. Rating: 3 / 5 I found this book as well as other books of Nathaniel and his former “teacher” to be too wordy and unconclusive. While certain things are interesting and worth open discussion they can be described much easier and in more straight forward terms.
Rating: 3 / 5

]]> By: Harry Littell http://hightselfesteem.com/2009/12/01/the-six-pillars-of-self-esteem/comment-page-1/#comment-1262 Harry Littell Tue, 01 Dec 2009 04:36:15 +0000 http://hightselfesteem.com/2009/12/01/the-six-pillars-of-self-esteem/#comment-1262 One of my sons read this book and insisted that I read it. I had to let it go before I got a third of the way through. I think you could say it is idealistic, but in a way that is in many respects nonsensical. I know there are a lot of people who revere this author, but I found him quite inconsistent in places and somewhat contradictory. Self-esteem in the way our culture necessitates it, as a means of self-justifiability, requires almost an entire absence of doubt. But in order to make it work you have to begin from a place of uncertainty, meaning doubt and fear. The notion is that self-esteem is sufficient to displace such doubt and fears, so when their presence remains it renders the argument, the excuses, and the self justifications and self absolutions are useless and wobbly at best. But the problem is that the role of self-justification and self-heroism is so implanted and embedded in the (movement) that personal failure and weakness are ignored. So what this author does is make it possible to believe that if you acquire self-esteem in the version he pontificates, you will do perfect in your life. Of course this is a deception, and anyone who fully embraces this notion is not going to hold up in the long run because it discourages and avoids the growth of true ego strength and personal honesty. Thus when fright comes, the mind may blow. Plus there is this superiority over people who don't have it, meaning ego strength. It lends itself to a pathetic form of self-denial that attests to some delicious and/or sensual form of self worship that only works so long as you are able to keep yourself convinced that you are right and others are wrong or inadequate. True there is a valid argument for self-esteem in the way it can foster and nurture self-respect and so on, but that kind is devoid of pride and the neuroses inherent the quest for personal power that is so often present in the self-esteem movement. It is this kind of thinking that got people to pull the equities in their houses and presume the good life will last forever, while the dark shadows of foreclosure and insecurity nudge their way closer and closer. It is a sad thing. There is no doubt that many people underestimate themselves and doubt themselves unjustly, but this book makes no sense in that regard and simply provides a means to develop an excuse or purpose to think that one person is better than another by ignoring fundamental weaknesses that can never be fully resolved. I didn't like the book and I don't like its message although in parts it sounded good as it mingles and weaves strong principles within the masks and majesty of its deceptions. Rating: 2 / 5 One of my sons read this book and insisted that I read it. I had to let it go before I got a third of the way through. I think you could say it is idealistic, but in a way that is in many respects nonsensical. I know there are a lot of people who revere this author, but I found him quite inconsistent in places and somewhat contradictory. Self-esteem in the way our culture necessitates it, as a means of self-justifiability, requires almost an entire absence of doubt. But in order to make it work you have to begin from a place of uncertainty, meaning doubt and fear. The notion is that self-esteem is sufficient to displace such doubt and fears, so when their presence remains it renders the argument, the excuses, and the self justifications and self absolutions are useless and wobbly at best. But the problem is that the role of self-justification and self-heroism is so implanted and embedded in the (movement) that personal failure and weakness are ignored. So what this author does is make it possible to believe that if you acquire self-esteem in the version he pontificates, you will do perfect in your life. Of course this is a deception, and anyone who fully embraces this notion is not going to hold up in the long run because it discourages and avoids the growth of true ego strength and personal honesty. Thus when fright comes, the mind may blow. Plus there is this superiority over people who don’t have it, meaning ego strength. It lends itself to a pathetic form of self-denial that attests to some delicious and/or sensual form of self worship that only works so long as you are able to keep yourself convinced that you are right and others are wrong or inadequate. True there is a valid argument for self-esteem in the way it can foster and nurture self-respect and so on, but that kind is devoid of pride and the neuroses inherent the quest for personal power that is so often present in the self-esteem movement. It is this kind of thinking that got people to pull the equities in their houses and presume the good life will last forever, while the dark shadows of foreclosure and insecurity nudge their way closer and closer. It is a sad thing. There is no doubt that many people underestimate themselves and doubt themselves unjustly, but this book makes no sense in that regard and simply provides a means to develop an excuse or purpose to think that one person is better than another by ignoring fundamental weaknesses that can never be fully resolved. I didn’t like the book and I don’t like its message although in parts it sounded good as it mingles and weaves strong principles within the masks and majesty of its deceptions.
Rating: 2 / 5

]]> By: O. Voumvas http://hightselfesteem.com/2009/12/01/the-six-pillars-of-self-esteem/comment-page-1/#comment-1261 O. Voumvas Tue, 01 Dec 2009 02:34:21 +0000 http://hightselfesteem.com/2009/12/01/the-six-pillars-of-self-esteem/#comment-1261 This review is for the audio edition. No stars is the true rating of a silly conversation with an old guy who cannot talk. The level of the meanings and ideas it is less than of a child in the first classes of elementary school. I feel very stupid i paid money for this garbage. Rating: 1 / 5 This review is for the audio edition. No stars is the true rating of a silly conversation with an old guy who cannot talk. The level of the meanings and ideas it is less than of a child in the first classes of elementary school. I feel very stupid i paid money for this garbage.
Rating: 1 / 5

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