How many times do we observe the bad things that happen in our life but neglect the good?
We see the empty glass of milk that our child has been left on the table. But we fail to notice the reality that all the milk was consumed and will be working to improve their wellnes.
We notice the tiny defects in a project that was performed with love by our child but do not recognize the exertion that was put into the end result.
Why do these things occur? How can it be that we continually hurt the ones we love the most?
Some will say that it is because we are trying to help them. We're just attempting to protect them from the world that they will encounter down the road.
For me, I would much rather receive the loving touch, hear the heartfelt laughter or view the adoring glance than the 'constructive criticism'.
It may be said that without this hard training we would certainly fail when we enter the cold cruel world.
But, isn't it more beneficial to know that you have a safe place to retreat to when the going gets rough than to be hesitant to ask your loved ones for help?
Here are a few suggestions that will help you produce a safe environment for your loved ones: 1. Practice a pleased tone of voice when receiving a phone call from your partner, as opposed to an displeased tone or a rushed pace that indicates the partner's call has interrupted important tasks (and inferring that they are less important) 2. Inquire about the dentist appointments or other details of the other person's day 3. Put down the remote control, newspaper, or telephone when the other partner walks thru the door 4. Coming home at the anticipated time - or at least calling if there is a delay
What these acts will do is help you teach the other person that they are essential to you. That they do matter.
All this comes down to is the fact that we need to observe our loved ones doing something good each and every day. There are forever people out there waiting to tell them when and how they messed up.
If we follow Mohandas Gandhi's statement, 'Be the change that you want to see in the world', our world will get a little bit better each day.
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